April 30, 2011
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Drinking
Well I've been doing a lot of drinking on thinking... hahaha jk I mean thinking on drinking... yea many of us have had our fun drinking and enjoying the fun of company... heck drinking was done during the college years... Well, not all, but it was a part of socializing and learning your limits... yea we all knew the laws but the new discovered freedom was in our all powerful hands and what did many enjoy ... yup drinking
The sad part came when people were taken to the hospital for alcohol poisoning... obviously OD-ing with alcohol. To be honest, I still don't know how people were able to such a level of alcohol in their systems but obviously not knowing their limits... right...
I, after a bad moment in life, got really drunk too... first time in my life I ever forgot part of my night... not good (the story of how everything is a story for another time) but my room mate and a frat sister watched over me... but as a result I did quit drinking for like a year plus...
But, I know people still do it here and there have fun, relax and enjoy ... and I don't find anything wrong with it... Every once in a while doesn't do you any harm... well that's my take even though the majority agree and a few don't...Okay, now let's say the fun and games are over but there are a few who continue drinking... slowly day in and day out... drinking alone and no longer in the company of friends... drinks after work and can't function as a person very much...
It wont happen to you... ok I hope not... but i've been hearing of stories of people I know close by who are struggling with their Husbands, Boyfriends, Men who drink ... yea, they have jobs and work but the relationship is deteriorating... They're not contributing and There is now ... yup spousal abuse...
It may seem a lil extreme but to this person I know, it's not... it's real life... a 4 month old and now pregnant again... and well she just realized who was sleeping next to her, a monster (no offense men) but I would hate if my life ever ended up there...When does it get past the point of innocent fun to the abuse of a loved one? The more I hear this of women suffering with their men over do it, the more I convince my self that a person who rarely drinks to none is better for my life. Socially is fine there is nothing wrong with as long as they don't party every.
Or hey I can have a few drinks and they can be DD haha well some hispanic households the female is DD ... but that's not the point. And I know that there are men who get abused by drunk women too ...
So still, How does one get past the point of innocent fun to the abuse of the loved one?
And, again I realize not everybody does that... but there are a few and that's more than enough...I'm starting to realize how some people choose to go the non-alcoholic way...
As far as I'm seeing, it's causing more problems in people I know than not... I would like to one day be happy... and only time can tell but as far as I am paying more attention and the more I think about things... my questions are being answered with out asking for the answer... I think God is truly guiding me... it's a strange feeling but I feel that the more I wonder the more answers I'm getting.... It's a good feeling ...
Hope my thoughts were coherent... a lil tired and no not drinking =D
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theres is a lot of bad that comes with alcohol. for instance my aunt cant get pregnant bc her husband is an avid drinker... everyday without fail for many years has caused his sperm to be water like.... this is also true for one of my uncles he also hasnt had a child bc he wont stop drinking... u see my bro in law and he looks fine but all he does is come home and drink.... its his daily routine.... yea some ppl become violent and some become secluded... some even more depressed then when they started its a vicious cycle.... when they cross that line is sadly not very noticable.... my husband was headed that way until i started pointing it out... and how i didnt like that the kids were growing up knowing that theres drinks in the fridge that are only for big people. i am just glad i got to see it before it exceeded.... sad that not everyone sees it in time... i hope your friends problems are solved in short time and i will pray for her and fam. she needs a lot of support especially in her state....
@Snoog420 - yea, I know you're right.... for her, he's 40 some... and drinking more and more... he's a lost cause. She called the cops on him last night. Sad when you fear for yourself. I guess she wants to leave him and she just might... this is her second relationship... was married for 18 yrs and divorce... but I guess thankfully she isn't married so she can easily do what she needs. She has her BA in Criminal justice so wants to go back to grad school... times are hard. But, she definitely could make it.
And I wasn't aware alcohol had that type of effect on reproduction...wow! sterility for life... Which is where your bro in law is going... when I was writing this, I was thinking about him too... He comes to mind a lot... he holds so much in... it's so sad seeing such a smart kid reduced to what he has of no fault of his own... but now it is.
And alcohol is very sad... I guess being aware now is opening my eyes to more...
Meh. Drinking alcohal isn't that great, imo. Of course I use to cook every once in a while, but I never drink it on its own. Bloody terrible, imo. Never saw the upside to having fun while impaired. Plus it makes me pee a river.
Now, it doesn't make all people bitter, but it does heighten all emotions. If somebody who is angry or bitter gets a hold of too much they can turn into a dizzy devil with all the yelling and violence and what not. It can also make people really happy, sad, horny, etc, etc,... and can even cause people to forget or belive something fictional happened.
Oh, it can lower sperm count as well as brain cells. Also makes for a crummy ticket if one gets pulled over after a night of fun...
@IllTroubadour - well, glad you don't like it... And yeah I see how it heightens emotions although my friends and I the ones who hang out have been since hs and college (most went to the same one) and we're all happy people... Do anger, sadness, just happy and fun! Well i'm the least fun bc no matter how drunk I'm still thinking and over analyzing situations... beside I feel like I sober up in 3 hours... lol But, the reason why I do ... it's because I'm super uptight... granted I only drink maybe 2-3 occasions a year but it relaxes me in many circumstances where I would feel stress... which honestly puts me at their level before they've started drinking... but I tend to talk a lot too which (hard to believe) I don't do much of... oh and never drink and drive.. haha! My mom was in a terrible accident because they were hit by a drunk driver... if I drink, I spend the night... I don't care.. I wont risk anything...
@pinktiger335 - well all the power to her and her children. She will make it. One will always find the strength to go on especially with children to care for. I know what you mean about him. Art and myself have talked bout trying to get him to go out and find maybe a significant other but the times we've tried its futile. It makes sense though who would want to bring a girl home when their living in the same room as their dad..... I dont think any of this will get better until their dad ups and leaves or gets a job or something....... idk........... idk how he does it but drinking is his escape i guess...... it saddens me a whole lot....pero para que me meto en lo que no me corresponde. and yea i did some research after hearing that my aunt hadnt gotten pregnant ....... and I asked out of curiosity if my uncle drank a lot and to no suprise she said yea and for years on a daily basis......... sad ........ she really wants a baby of her own and he wont leave the juice even to attempt to see if he will be capable of reproducing.......
@pinktiger335 - hahaha as for heightened emotions.... it does..... there has been a few times when ive had to really watch over my sister and others because after a few and the happiness it brings that last one thats too much just brings your inner most feelings out.. which has been sadness in a lot of cases in my sister and other....... and then trying to talk sense into a drunk is just useless lol ............and for this im usually the dd for any case and the fact that i cant stop thinking that i have kids back home that i have to get back to ........
@Snoog420 - Yes, we can overcome and care for our kids.... times becomes hard but it's possible.. And, Yes your F-in-L wont do it.. child support... he rather we taken care of as a 44 yr old than take responsibility... and if I was in O's shoes... I wouldn't want to date... I mean it would be cool having a room in bro's place then then adding the other small detail... maybe not a deal-breaker...but the privacy and everything else... And sorry for your Tia... it sucks she wants a baby so bad and her man isn't willing to stop just to be able to give what every woman wants at least once in her life (some, not all)... but, i guess love was blind and maybe her fault for loving him too much... it sucks but it's true!
I agree with you... sometimes being DD is the best way... That's why I spend the night since I rarely go out anyways. And Danny, well I've learned to keep him at home if I'm going to drink not because I can't watch him- I can tend to his needs and do what he needs to but because if I drink and at the end of the night he wont stay, I can't drive with him. I guess in the end we all learn to cope with what is put in front of us... Even though, we see some bad qualities in the end is how much you love a person to be willing to put up with it. The most love is that no matter what and pain they've caused that you're still willing to work it out and make it work...
So glad your conscious and you made A stop drinking so much... the kids are the most important!
There's both a good side and a bad side to drinking. You only ever hear about the bad side. What you never hear about is the myriad of health benefits that come from moderate drinking: reduced risk of heart disease/heart attack, stroke, hypertension, diabetes, kidney disease, dementia, among other things (and these benefits hold for any alcoholic beverage, not just wine as was once believed).
However, key word being "moderation."
I have my daily couple of drinks and think nothing of it. I don't drink excessive amounts, but I do enjoy drinking.
@StatelessPilot@revelife - You're actually right. And I am aware of those benefits too... but like you said in "moderation" the thing with drinking is that people are abusing and becoming someone harmful. I mean it all starts with moderation and realizing their limits but if the person gets too far from the actual benefits which most don't think about when they're drinking... then we have a problem. I guess it was the problem that I'm worried about... I only drink a few times a year... I make it up but then again... I don't go past a point... I will not wake up with a hang over no matter what... I refuse... and since I hardly drink, I've become a light weight...
But thanks for sharing the benefits!! People should know those as well!
@pinktiger335 - I'm really content with my two bottles of beer per day (or one bottle of beer + one shot of Scotch). Only in extremely rare circumstances will I exceed this amount, and never to the point I'm drunk out of my wits (I did that one time, and it's not anywhere I want to go again).
I just truly enjoy my beverages of choice. I don't slam my alcohol, I sip it and enjoy the flavors. That's my style. Drinking to get drunk never really has been.
@StatelessPilot@revelife - having limits is the best way. I don't think I can ever drink everyday... I do admit that the few times I do drink (unless out for dinner) I do it to feel the body numbness(in a sense). I'm a happy person then, well i'm happy now but I just don't stop smiling and laughing (in appropriate times) it's for my moments of letting go... maybe that's why I will only do it a few times a year to savor the moment... I don't loose conscientiousness but I learned from getting so drunk one time... never want to feel that, again or wake up drunk the next day and as the day proceeds end up with a hang over... Keep enjoying your sips and drink responsibly!!
I guess it all depends on the person. If he/she is in an abusive relationship, it's up to them to make the decision to leave or stay. The person drinking is not going to remember or realize anything they've done until it's already done. I understand that it sucks and it hurts leaving someone you love, but your life and safety should be factors in deciding when you should leave or stay.
@suefa_lee - You're right, it always depends on the person. But, the fact of the matter is that alcohol is bringing the worst out of a person. Whether the person is the nicest without alcohol. Actually, we're finding out they do remember, it more of an accuse to do damage and not take the blame or take the responsibility. It is the responsibility of the person to remove themselves from such a situation and specially when there are young kids involved, but the factor of doing it safely while the person isn't drinking violent still plays a role or where to go if you don't have family... A life challenge all in all. =D Thanks for you response!
This is why I stopped drinking when depressed. I went through a terrible depression about a year ago, and started drinking very heavily. It was horrible, I was constantly making bad decisions, losing periods of my memory, ruining relationships.
I still drink, and I enjoy it, but now I only do it with friends, and (with one or two exceptions) I do it in moderation.
Men who beat women, and women who beat men after drinking should just not drink. I have never, and will never hit a women.
@GodlessLiberal - Well it shows responsibility from your part. I'm glad you realized something and turned into something different. Yes, drinking with friends sure beats drinking alone and depressed! Yes, ruining relationships, not only that but scarring people with actions and your self . *cheers* to happy drinking in moderation. =D
@incarnate_emotion - You're right, they shouldn't drink... But how can we stop them... or better yet how can get get them to quit when they don't want to? I'm glad you've never laid you hand on a woman. Or that nobody has ever laid a hand on you either for that matter. I guess there are times when situations are tough but for those people we need to pull the alcohol plug, immediately!
i hear you on this.
i have to be extremely careful with drinking now.
@ThePrince - It's something I wasn't too aware about myself. I mean I've seen my dad drink all of his life. But, he's always been a passive person no matter what... but, my mom gets mad... when she just knows... I've see the agressive drunk from a friend and see the passive one from my dad but it still leads to problems.
Do you drink to a point where you react differently? And being aware is very important.
Drinking can make you feel great and everything at the time, but then comes the consequences and the hangover.
yup, consequences are what some people don't think about ... I, actually, when I drink I drink a 2-3 ... in a few hours... I don't try not to over do it... I hate hang overs... anything to avoid and drink a lot of water and eat... And truth be told I hardly drink, but I know how to it responsibly.
Yeah, I can't find anything good about drinking.
@TrainTrack - thanks!! And I agree... the more I see into it the more I agree!
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