November 6, 2011
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heartbreak
A heart break is one of those feelings that just leaves like you've fallen off a cliff.... You know you're falling you just don't know how low and how hard you're going to hit. it's the sinking feeling... you can turn anywhere but you can't do anything because there is nothing to do.
You want a helping hand but no one is ever really available to talk. You feel alone. You don't think anyone understands you. We DO!!! Much more than you think. You want to talk to that person but they wont let you. They might want to but at the same time you think they hate you. One did something wrong and it's easier to point the finger at each other.
or just as easily take the blame and the heartbreak.
"It's my fault, I'm sorry"
And you wished that they would understand how you felt
but the truth was that as much as the person feels like this, they know that when something went wrong. There was probably pain, manipulating, no trust, lack of communication (one or all of them or other symptoms)- in the end what do you have?
Nothing...
nothing...
you question yourself and think... can things have gone differently....
maybe....
maybe not...
What if that one instance in time didn't happen?
What if I would have loved more?
What I tried harder?
What if maybe you wouldn't have let go like you promise?
What if...
what if...
what if...
instead ...
you grab your little broken heart and hold it tightly together. You slowly let it mend, if you could sew it together I'm sure you would but with time it will heal.
You will be ok. You're not alone.
You ARE NOT alone!!
So many of your friends have felt that pain yet we continue to try an isolate ourselves and pretend. Pretend everything over and you slowly kill yourself more inside.
Love is not one of those things to put off lightly. Love doesn't change like the wind. Love doesn't come and go. Love doesn't change the the river. Love, true love is accepting and a choice to make to love. Love yourself and love another.
Love is about fighting for that inner peace, about forgiving a person even if they harmed you. LOVE......
Love never fails... it never fails because you don't let it fail...
You do everything in your power to make it work. When you love, you love. Love for who and what they are. Learn everything and how they can change and accept it. If you can't accept a person for who they are, you will never learn true love.
There comes a point when loving means letting go. Letting a person make out what they want in life. Self discovery.
The best way I've learned about love and pain is to always accept people for who they are. Always love people no matter what. Even, if they caused you pain love them for their qualities not any bad memories. No bad memories should get the best of you.
Hold no grudges because it only takes away from the beauty of life. And it makes you bitter.
If you did the harming do your best to not be a creeper but try to find the forgiveness.
I know these are ideal. It will not always work. I'm a fortunate person when it comes people especially those who have had a positive or negative impact. My goal is to always try and understand people and why they do what they do. People do not quite understand me because I'm a little weird. I always try to be nice and friendly so I earn forgiveness not for the person for me. People are important even if I''m awkward socially but I love and respect people and that's how I like any ending/ beginning. Acceptance and to cherish everything moment that had to do with the life.
Comments (15)
nice. i liked your pictures. fit well with your message. I feel you described it spot on, at least for me.
I have been in both pair of shoes. Most of us have, at one time or another. There have been women who have imagined themselves in love with me, and it was painful, because I felt no more than friendship for them. The reverse has also been true, before I was married. Now that my angel has taken flight, I am not in such a hurry to find anyone else. I am happy just being a friend to humanity.
I am also here to listen, any time your burden gets too heavy.
Awh this is nice (: (: Sometimes people just have to understand that the people around them are caring.
I feel bad for you and all those with broken hearts
There is just to much pain and misunderstanding in the world! So many hearts are broken over selfish pleasure rather than real love. Have a great week!
@Cucumber_Melonhead - it hits the spot for many. I don't think heartbreak ever feels any different. A crushing pain in the chest. lol sometimes over dramatic but it is what it is.
@RighteousBruin - As have I and I think that's what makes it the hardest. The because a previous pain one tries as much to add cushion to prevent a once fragile heart to shatter again. I guess the hope is for mutual feelings and concern for each other. And always communicate and make sure the person knows that they are appreciated and loved. But, both have to do it not just one. *hugs* Thank you hun!! I know I can trust you if I need to.
@fabolousclown - yes, as friends and a community show love to those in pain. So many people try and hide it but a simple "Hi, I'm thinking about you" always brings a smile and sparks a friendly conversation.
@TrainTrack - A unmistakable empty feeling in the chest can only be healed in one way. Well there are no definite answers but God always lightens the way. Prayer and meditation for some help and make the pain lighter. If it was for a heartbreak He has always been there to help me carry my pain and put it in his hands as guidance. I think I would have been lost otherwise. Seeking out and find him was a blessing.
@boydcreek - I completely agree. There is so much misunderstanding and miscommunication with feelings. If I have ever hurt someone, it has never been intentional and specially not out of pleasure. The worst thought and feeling is to hurt another but by not ending something you can break yourself more. Sometimes there have to be exceptions but never out of malice but because you care and love a person enough to respect them. Those that are mean and jump around from people to people hurting those in between deserve the Karma that comes their way. But, everybody deserves closure.
I also hope you have a wonderful week.
Love & forgiveness go hand in hand. That goes for our relationships with other people, but moreso for our relationships with ourselves.
Love u, Rey! =]
@starmanjones - through all the sadness there will always be joy and happiness in there in the mix and fun stories and memories
@nerdyveggiegirl - You're absolutely right hun. I guess we also need to worry about the relationship within ourselves and not just the one with others.
Love u too, *M*
@pinktiger335 - oh goody! I like happiness
.. i best hurry now, mine is due up shortly and I've this hankering to post but have this nasty habit of carrying on forever like now 
During my divorce, I met so many men who were still angry and holding a grudge against their ex wives. There were genuinely furious. I decided then that I wasn't going to be that person. I would only be hurting myself.
Love is precious and like you said, should be cultivated, cherished and protected.
You described this very well and I relate.
Absolutly amazing post, layout, everything. I really relate to this, it brings a tear to my eye, so close to my heart.
Come by my page, I just started so it's not as well put together but i'm learning and would love some friends to get inspired by. My first post was about fashion but i plan on writing about everything.
SkyeBrooke
@starmanjones - You are due. don't stay behind. :) keep you eyes open.
@C_L_O_G - I'm so glad you didn't keep a grudge. Spending so much time with a person, even if things went bad. Respect should never be compromise. *hug* Love is special.
@Grannys_Place - Thank you sweetie! *hugs!!*
@SkyeBrooke - Thank you hun. I guess what happens is that we do hold these close to the heart. *hug*
I don't know the feeling of a broken heart. I do know the feeling of rejection though...