October 29, 2011
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Dating online (xanga, FB, etc)
Well us being fellow Xangans and getting so close to each other I know we're all aware relationships start on here. Some unfortunately lead to heartbreak or misleading. We know there are many outlets of socializing. I know that it's hard enough meeting people even if you know the person or not....
I've met a person when Myspace was alive... and then again the same person in FB. I've dated 2 others from Fb, was in a xanga LDR. I even went on a online dating site but I took it down, I just chatted with people but there is no way I would ever trust those people. I don't know what to say about any of them, I've met great people but it always hurts a little you know... There is only one relationship in which I had never met in person but was hoping at one point in my life. The last one and the feelings are/were unexplainable and the situation is so indescribable that I'm still mystified.
Between, my son and the little or not going out at all, meeting people is hard.
So, TV says 20% (1out of 5) of relationships will start online, do you agree or disagree?
(I know more have started in mine, but how do you measure, only US, people with computers, or people with no comp/internet access, oh lovely stats... how do you come about?)
And I was wondering has Xanga been your only socializing site or do you meet or reacquaint through other's sites??
Where'd ya meet your gf/bf?
Comments (16)
Great question. I'll have to come back and answer it later though.
I met my ex in college. Ironically enough, before we got close, we chatted on AIM a lot at night. Even before that, she would comment on my Xanga with her account then. This was way before the reply function was implemented. The only way to know if someone replied was by reading the post again or posting your comment on one of their posts. It wasn't until sometime later that we started talking on the phone and spent time together in school.
I've met all of my boyfriends through different friends. I recently realized that all the guys around here suck so I tried a dating site but no one really sticks out :/
1 out of all of my total relationships (which is 1) started online, which means 100% of my relationships have started online. I met my girlfriend on Xanga. We started out as friends and we started chatting with each other and one thing led to another and the next thing I know I'm taking 700+ mile trips to see her. We've been together for about seven months so far, and so far so good.
Xanga is the only socializing site I use. It's hard for me to trust people on the Internet. I followed a guy here and Luc followed me here.
I spend more time on Xanga than on Facebook, but Xanga is mostly for the people I meet here, whereas Facebook is only for people I have actually met in person.
I've had good luck with both mine and others online dating
I've a date of my own and a nice long romance as in a couple months out of another. I've moved out of state for a short spell because of a relationship with lol someone else's chat up...I've of course suffered huge when he swiped my later chat up 
lol. I've swiped one friend's other chat up to lose her to yet another friend then visit her and later have her cheat on the one friend in a love triangle only to lose all of her options lol...that was a riot. I've a great ldr going in fb at the moment. I've kept up now in fb but one or another double handful of hopefuls in myspace and fb. I've even a few i'd known from msn groups, webtv, and aol still floating about! whether i meet people myself or through friends i have far greter luck meeting people online as we can far quicker find out common connections or just interest. I however have had FAR greater luck meeting people so far the old fashioned way of via social settings and in person....there just is something to hold someone that however fun online is, can be lacking.xanga is over
I've never considered starting a relationship online to be a viable option.
I socialize on xanga, fb, blogger, twitter, and google+. I know several of the same people on all those sites.
I don't currently have a gf.
@bmojsilo - haha, ok
@stupid_systemus - The wonders of how one gets close to people through technology. I mean people I've dated we went to HS, and college together but reconnected through the works of the web. and I remember Xanga like that... lol I've gone back and seen comments on my old posts lol... I started this xanga in 2004. Was it before then?
@HeLLo_Bianca - I feel you it's tough. I don't normally meet people from anywhere unless I know them. The people I've gone out with is because we've somehow have had a connection in our pasts but somehow the whole XC came along and well he was something else. Never thought it would happen lol but currently I don't have anyone. I'm just taking life slow and not rushing anything.
@Rob_of_the_Sky - so 100% for you. But it's very sweet how you both travel. Not many people are willing to do it but so glad it's working out and distance means nothing when it comes to love.
@livexlovexlaughter - it is hard to trust people. I followed a friend here, he encouraged it. I have other sites where I know people IRL but I've learn to trust a few people here. I guess we all need to learn where to draw the line with all friends so that the trust isn't broken. I remember yours and luc coming on here. It was sweet. How are you and him doing?
@naughty_virgin - makes total sense. Have you dated any people pn your friend's list in FB?
@starmanjones - I agree in person is better. And I'm so happy for you. Socializing with people face to face just gives that extra spark. You can see them in their eyes and see how they respond. Online you get none of that. Well you can skype but the feell the touch isn't the same.
@C_L_O_G - sometimes socializing is just better. It keeps you away from many issues.
I met a lot of people online and I have good relationships with couple of them. Others just kinda died. I think online relationships can work, but it's just like any other relationship. It takes work and dedication. It's not easy but it can work out.
@pinktiger335 - I started in November 2003.
@pinktiger335 - Actually, no, and it doesn't look like I will.
What is MySpace? haha lol j.k.
I used to be part of a chatroom community. Through that I met and had 2 online relationships with people there, but I was in High School. They were all LDR and people living in different states, but the feelings were there, even if we couldn't see each other. I ended up meeting one of them, and another girl on that chatroom community who dated my brother, we ended up going to the same College and we met. She is pretty much my sister. =P
I haven't really met new people online since then. Not until Xanga. So yeah there you have it.
I've had two online relationships and both of them ended for different reasons. Now, I'm nn a legitimate relationship with the best guy ever (we worked together at GameStop) :)
@bmojsilo - Exactly (sorry about late response- I forgot I about this) Oops! But, some can work but it's not easy. there needs to be constant communication and it surely does take a lot of work.
@stupid_systemus - You win! lol
@Cucumber_Melonhead - myspace- dinosaur era... lol Thanks for the history lesson.
jk... Relationships happen when you least expect it.
@xdeelynnx - sometimes it's no much easier when you can see them physically. As much as there is a thrill in meeting a person or loving a person in a distance but to unite those 2 very different lives is so much harder when the towns are too different and they've made they life decisions. I know they can move, but one always has a lil to lose at first. it's hard. But, yes I read your post and I'm so happy for you!! best relationships always start with friends and grow!!
@pinktiger335 - Yeah, the towns...I should say states were very different. One was from New Jersey and the other one lives in Texas. I will never ever get involved romantically with someone I meet online again. I've learned my lesson.